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With the great marriage debate raging across the country, and having its day (days really) in court I thought it would be useful to take a step back and look at the realistic impacts on our everyday life should the Supreme Court decide to invalidate DOMA (The Defense of Marriage Act), or strike down California Prop. 8.1
There is passion on either side of the issue, and no one doubts the sincerity of the beliefs of either side, both of which engage in a constant prediction of what equal marriage rights would really mean. Those in opposition to granting equal rights to homosexuals make impassioned, though rarely constitutional, arguments as to why things should stay as they are.
The most common anti-gay marriage argument stems from the narrative of gay people being different, having an "alternative" lifestyle, and breaking with "tradition." While such words can seem innocuous, in reality they are unmistakable statements that gay people should be kept out of sight, so they are more easily kept out of mind. I don't know when living with your significant other, or wanting to marry them, became "alternative" but I'm glad to live in the time when we will welcome it to "normal."
Sure, traditionally we haven't seen men marrying men, or a woman standing at the alter waiting for her bride to be given away by her fathers, but then again we hadn't seen many black people marrying white people until 50 years ago.
Yes, "gay marriage" (why not just equal rights?) may be a new thing, but so were things like cars, air travel, lunch meat, television, the internet, and formaldehyde at one point.2 It is no doubt that each of these things changed life as we knew it, but that is part of living in a country like the United States of America.
In 1776 it was not normal to try and govern with a democratic-republic style government. Before 1863 it wasn't normal for black people to own land, work for pay, or be anything but slaves held in permanent bondage. Until 1896 the idea of the internal combustion engine vehicle was just that, an idea. Prior to 1920 women, of all colors, were denied the essential participation in the democratic process through voting. In 1969 we went to the moon. In space. During the 1980's Al Gore (or so I've heard) revolutionized the world with the internet. None of those things were traditional, and all of them started out as an "alternative" idea.
It seems that many opponents want to use the classic scare tactic to rally support by preaching about all of the bad that will happen when marriage equality occurs, and how it will change our very societal fabric. In response, I've created a list both of things that will and won't happen:
Things that WON'T happen: the world stops turning; current marriages become invalidated; people marry dogs; people marry goats; people marry anything that isn't a person who can enter into a legally binding contractual relationship; non-gay persons will magically become gay; all children will be gay; the human race will cease to exist; churches will be forced to recognize the marriages by the state in their own congregations (they already don't have to do that, as in the Catholic Church); marriage will become less of a joke than it already is to some people; the "american" way of life will change; family values will be destroyed.
The sounds of thumping won't go away immediately. They will remain audible far into the future, but the law and our constitution provide a path to ensure equality. That path is one we should not shy from today with the intention to try again tomorrow, or the next day. Each step may not be the same size, or have the same impact, but together they lead to the light of equality and justice that eludes so many because of the prejudices of so few.
-Adam Sommer
1. I don't expect the court to do either. I expect them to rule that the only issues they can decide are standing, and give a round about victory to equal rights advocates, but that is a discussion best saved for June, once we have the opinions in hand and not just the records of the oral arguments.
2. Seriously, President Lincoln was one of the first well known public figures to have an extended funeral, and it was made possible by the fairly new advent of using embalming fluids to preserve the body. Pretty wild stuff.
3. In short, it will probably help the economy in some ways, and more importantly it will grant equality to those who already have the right to possess it.
4. Depending on who you talk to this generation gave us the first Islamic President, but I digress.
With the great marriage debate raging across the country, and having its day (days really) in court I thought it would be useful to take a step back and look at the realistic impacts on our everyday life should the Supreme Court decide to invalidate DOMA (The Defense of Marriage Act), or strike down California Prop. 8.1
There is passion on either side of the issue, and no one doubts the sincerity of the beliefs of either side, both of which engage in a constant prediction of what equal marriage rights would really mean. Those in opposition to granting equal rights to homosexuals make impassioned, though rarely constitutional, arguments as to why things should stay as they are.
The most common anti-gay marriage argument stems from the narrative of gay people being different, having an "alternative" lifestyle, and breaking with "tradition." While such words can seem innocuous, in reality they are unmistakable statements that gay people should be kept out of sight, so they are more easily kept out of mind. I don't know when living with your significant other, or wanting to marry them, became "alternative" but I'm glad to live in the time when we will welcome it to "normal."
Sure, traditionally we haven't seen men marrying men, or a woman standing at the alter waiting for her bride to be given away by her fathers, but then again we hadn't seen many black people marrying white people until 50 years ago.
Yes, "gay marriage" (why not just equal rights?) may be a new thing, but so were things like cars, air travel, lunch meat, television, the internet, and formaldehyde at one point.2 It is no doubt that each of these things changed life as we knew it, but that is part of living in a country like the United States of America.
In 1776 it was not normal to try and govern with a democratic-republic style government. Before 1863 it wasn't normal for black people to own land, work for pay, or be anything but slaves held in permanent bondage. Until 1896 the idea of the internal combustion engine vehicle was just that, an idea. Prior to 1920 women, of all colors, were denied the essential participation in the democratic process through voting. In 1969 we went to the moon. In space. During the 1980's Al Gore (or so I've heard) revolutionized the world with the internet. None of those things were traditional, and all of them started out as an "alternative" idea.
It seems that many opponents want to use the classic scare tactic to rally support by preaching about all of the bad that will happen when marriage equality occurs, and how it will change our very societal fabric. In response, I've created a list both of things that will and won't happen:
Things that WILL happen when marriage equality occurs: higher revenue for marriage licenses; more legally bound stable homes for adoptions; more business for wedding planners, banquet halls, etc. (you know, because of all of the weddings); more work for family law and estate attorneys (because of all the prenups, divorces, and new estate plans); more people getting to be at the bed side of the person they love while in the hospital; more monogramming; lots of Facebook relationship status changes; people we all know and love will get the same treatment as straight people under the law; and lots more good stuff.3
Things that WON'T happen: the world stops turning; current marriages become invalidated; people marry dogs; people marry goats; people marry anything that isn't a person who can enter into a legally binding contractual relationship; non-gay persons will magically become gay; all children will be gay; the human race will cease to exist; churches will be forced to recognize the marriages by the state in their own congregations (they already don't have to do that, as in the Catholic Church); marriage will become less of a joke than it already is to some people; the "american" way of life will change; family values will be destroyed.
The US is a progressive nation. We always have been. Our founders bucked tradition, and that attitude of always fighting for a better tomorrow has lived on through future generations. We have been handed the torch by the generation that desegregated schools, enfranchised the minority vote, and elected the first Catholic President.4
The sounds of thumping won't go away immediately. They will remain audible far into the future, but the law and our constitution provide a path to ensure equality. That path is one we should not shy from today with the intention to try again tomorrow, or the next day. Each step may not be the same size, or have the same impact, but together they lead to the light of equality and justice that eludes so many because of the prejudices of so few.
-Adam Sommer
1. I don't expect the court to do either. I expect them to rule that the only issues they can decide are standing, and give a round about victory to equal rights advocates, but that is a discussion best saved for June, once we have the opinions in hand and not just the records of the oral arguments.
2. Seriously, President Lincoln was one of the first well known public figures to have an extended funeral, and it was made possible by the fairly new advent of using embalming fluids to preserve the body. Pretty wild stuff.
3. In short, it will probably help the economy in some ways, and more importantly it will grant equality to those who already have the right to possess it.
4. Depending on who you talk to this generation gave us the first Islamic President, but I digress.